Workbook Activity 1: Notice and describe your own talk.
I felt a bit silly ‘noticing’ my own talk this week. After all, talking is something I do naturally, subconsciously, so having to pay attention to what I said was actually quite challenging.
What I found is that how I greet people depends on the relationship I have with them. When I’m speaking with my partner or my family, my greeting is a simple, “Hey, [bub (partner), Mum, Dad, Case (short for Caci, my younger sister)].
I noticed that I don’t ask how they are or how their day was, which according to this week’s study guide, may indicate that I don’t want to engage in conversation with them (Ames, 2018, pp. 4-5).
If I think about it, that’s probably partially true. However, it’s not really that I don’t want to engage in conversation with them, it’s that I don’t want to initiate the conversation. This probably stems from being told one too many times that I talk too much!
When I speak within an institutional setting (Ames, 2018, p. 4) however, such as greeting my boss or work colleagues, I normally say, “Hey, how ya going?”
I believe this response shows that I’m interested in a general response from them about how their day has been, etc., but that I don’t want to get into a full-blown conversation.
I’m normally politely closed off to my current boss and colleagues. This is because I’ve had experiences in the past at previous work places where the line between ‘friend’ and ‘colleague’ became too blurred, which caused quite a few problems (Ames, 2018, p. 3).
Again, how I say goodbye depends on my relationship with the person I’m speaking with. If it’s my partner or family, I normally say, “Bye, love you.” However, if it’s my boss or a work colleague, I say, “See ya later.”
My response to dealing with uncomfortable moments is the same no matter who I’m speaking with. I just start babbling to try and rush past the moment or fill the silence, hoping that no one will notice, which is probably why I’ve been told before that I talk too much.
When I transition to a close in conversation, I don’t tend to use humour (Holt, 2010, cited in Ames, 2018, p. 4), but that’s probably because I’m naturally a fairly serious person.
Generally, I’ll say, “Okie dokie, well then…” to lead into the appropriate closing statement.
Noticing my talk was more difficult than I thought it would be, but it was an interesting exercise and it taught me a few things about myself that I’ll try to pay more attention to in the future.
Ames, K. (2018). COMM12033 Speech & Script – Week 5: Institutional Talk. Rockhampton: CQUniversity.